Your chance to supercharge your internet business
Dear Friends,
If you're at all serious about making money with your own
online business, then it is essential that you carefully
consider the deal I want to make with you today...
My good friend Derek Gehl has publicly released the newest
edition of his famous "Insider Secrets" online
wealth-generating system... and I was wondering if you would
mind testing it?
You see, I'm considering partnering with Derek (he and his
team have made over $54.7 Million in online sales, and he
really *gets* how to be successful selling almost anything
using the Internet) -- but before I team up with Derek, I
want to make absolutely SURE his system will work for my
customers and subscribers.
So here's what I'm proposing:
I've worked out a deal with Derek, and he will ship you
(via Federal Express) a 10 lb. box.
In this box you'll find 2 DVDs, 6 resource CDs, 2 guidebooks,
and 2 thick binders containing in excess of 1,385 pages
explaining the step-by-step instructions on how to start
and grow a wildly profitable Internet business.
All I'm asking you to do is follow the instructions. If you
do this, one of two things will happen:
The system will work for you, and you'll start living the
dream of "passive" income with your very own Internet business.
You'll be literally making money while you sleep!
OR:
The system won't work for you. If this happens, Derek will
personally write you a check for $200 as our way of
apologizing for wasting your time.
In other words, the absolute WORST thing that can happen if
you take us up on this is that you'll come out $200 ahead!
The best case scenario is something far, far more exciting...
luxury vacations, new cars for you and your family, paying off
your mortgage... It's up to you!
All you need to do today is tell Derek where to send your
package by clicking the link below:
http://www.marketingtips.com/t.cgi/878730 (OR CUT AND PASTE)
All the best,
Hyacinth
P.S. By the way -- do you want to meet a few of the people who
are *already* using Derek's system?
-- Rory M. from Ireland made over $1,000,000 last year selling a
VERY strange gizmo from his simple little web site. (I still
don't understand exactly what it does!)
-- Barbara J. is making a steady $8,500 a month telling people
how to rearrange their old furniture. (She's a 60-year-old
grandmother, and she works LESS than 1 lousy hour a day!)
-- Chris E. must be the envy of his Australian surfer buddies
down at the beach... He makes over $200,000 a year working
about 9 hours per week. Not bad for a 23-year-old kid!
You can read more of their stories, and find out all the details
of how YOU can get started too by visiting:
http://www.marketingtips.com/t.cgi/878730 (OR CUT AND PASTE)
All the best,
Hyacinth
THE POWER OF ASSERTIONAt the heart of coaching is your ability to maintain your assertive power. As a coach I encourage my clients to stand in their centre and maintain a strong sense of self. It is in this context that coaching becomes really effective in maintaining your results levels.
THE POWER OF ASSERTION
REASONS FOR NON-ASSERTION1. Fear
2. Fear of failure
3. Fear of success
4. Lack of self awareness – not really sure what you want
5. Shyness
6. Feeling that you have no rights
7. Not sure of personal strengths
8. Not sure of the line between aggression and assertion
9. Feeling unsure about the skills and art of assertion
10. Use to behaving in a particular way and not necessarily convinced of a need for change
11. Unable to cope with the responsibility that comes with assertive behaviour
12. Fear the loss of friends if you start to behave differently (assertively)
13. Feeling unwell
14. Believing that you won’t be listened to
15. Making an active choice not to assert your rights
16. Believing that things will turn out alright in the end, whether you do anything or not
THE POWER OF ASSERTION
ASSERTIVE TECHNIQUESBroken record
Identify clearly what it is that you want from the situation – what result do you want to achieve?
Stick to the point. Stay focused. Ensure that the person you are speaking to is actually listening.
Using the broken record technique is simply finding an assertive phrase and using the form of words over and over again, with maybe minor variations. Stay calm and repeat your statement. Your aim is to be heard and eventually you will get through.
Once you have identified the result you want, make a clear statement:
• `I can’t work late this evening’
• `I understand that you want me to work late this evening, I can’t in fact work late this evening’
Points to remember
• Ensure that your non-verbal language matches your verbal language. Make sure that both aspects of your behaviour are conveying the same message
• In order to help you make the points, particularly if you know you may find it difficult, it may well be worth writing down what you want to say and practice saying it
• Stay focused and don’t get side tracked by irrelevancies.
Fogging – dealing with unjust feedback
1. Listen to the feedback rather than rejecting it and becoming defensive
2. Ask yourself whether there is any validity in the feedback
3. If the criticism is valid:
• Acknowledge that it is true
• If it is generalised then ask for more specific information
• Ask other people whom you trust to give you supportive feedback about whether or not they experience you in a similar way
• Decide whether or not you are going to change your behaviour as a consequence of the feedback
4. If the feedback is invalid:
• Say so and assert yourself positively. E.G. You are very careless in your work. `No that isn’t true. I am usually careful in my work’
5. If the feedback is valid and in the form of a `put down’:
• Acknowledge that it is true. Challenge the `put down’ and assert yourself positively.
• It is important with `put downs’ to respond assertively and to confront the `put down’. E.G. Typical of you – you are always so careless in your work. ` Yes, I have been careless today. However I am usually careful in my work and I don’t like your `put downs’.
6. If the feedback is invalid and in the form of a `put down’:
• Say so. Challenge the `put down’ and assert yourself positively. E.G. No that isn’t true, I am careful in my work and I don’t like your `put down’
Assertion Training by Anni Townend
Saying No Assertively
Some common myths about saying no:
1. You are rejecting the person as opposed to the request
2. It is malicious, uncaring and selfish
3. You are being aggressive
4. It is your fault if others are upset by you saying no
Helpful hints when saying no
• Have a clear outcome
• Listen to your feelings
• Practice saying no without feeling guilty and without being overly-apologetic (practice, practice, practice)
• Accept responsibility for saying no – don’t put the responsibility on others
Hyacinth is a Master Practitioner of NLP and a Master Hypnotherapist, Trainer, Consultant and Coach.
Hyacinth, an independent consultant and trainer for fifteen years. Highly regarded and ensures that her training is informative, exciting and presented in such a way to ensure all learning styles are catered for. She has shown herself to be more than happy working with personnel at the highest levels in the private, public and voluntary sectors, up to and including members of the board as well as front line staff.
Hyacinth has worked as a consultant/trainer within a number of large public sector organisations, including: Home Office, Probation Service, DfES, DfT, CPS, OfCom, NICE. She has also worked with a number of local authorities including: Croydon, Greenwich, Havering, Hillingdon, Hounslow, Lambeth, Lewisham, Merton, Southwark, and Waltham Forest.
Please do contact me via motivationallearning@yahoo.co.uk
“It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts” – John Wooden
Empowering coaching and mentoring quotes• Freedom consists not in refusing to recognise anything above us, but in respecting something which is above us; for by respecting it, we raise ourselves to it, and, by our very acknowledgment, prove that we bear within ourselves what is higher, and are worthy to be on a level with it. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
• Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
• The goal of coaching is the goal of good management — to make the most of an organization's valuable resources. J. Waldroop & T. Butler
• Executive coaches are not for the meek. They're for people who value unambiguous feedback. All coaches have one thing in common, it's that they’re ruthlessly results oriented. Claire Tristan
• I absolutely believe that people, unless coached, never reach their maximum capabilities. -Bob Nardelli, CEO, Home Depot
• Do all the good you can. By all the means you can. In all the ways you can
In all the places you can. To all the people you can. As long as ever you can. John Wesley
• Be the change you want to see in the world. Gandhi
• One’s mind, once stretched by a new idea never regains its original dimensions. Oliver Wendell Holmes
• Watching/helping others allows me to see where I have been. It helps me to reflect on my past to better design my future. Anonymous
• Teaching is a lifelong learning adventure which requires both hands-on and minds-on exploration. Anonymous
• There are two ways you can die. You can stop breathing or you can stop dreaming. Rocco Casciato
• Our only hope is in daring to re-dream one’s place in the world. Ben Okri
• Nothing splendid has ever been achieved except by those who dared believe that something inside them was superior to circumstance. Bruce Barton
• The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them. George Bernard Shaw
• The future belongs to those that believe in the beauty of their dreams. Eleanor Roosevelt
• I don't know what the future may hold, but I know who holds the future.
--Ralph Abernathy
• None of us is responsible for the complexion of his skin. This fact of nature offers no clue to the character or quality of the person underneath.
--Marian Anderson
• There is never time in the future in which we will work out our salvation. The challenge is in the moment; the time is always now.
--James Baldwin
• Impossibilities are merely things of which we have not learned, or which we do not wish to happen.
--Charles W. Chesnutt
• You may never know what results come of your action, but if you do nothing there will be no result – Mahatma Ghandi
• For true success ask yourself these four questions: Why? Why not? Why not me? Why not now? James Allen
• You are wholly complete and your success in life will be in direct proportion to your ability to accept this truth about you. Robert Anthony
Hyacinth is a Master Practitioner of NLP and a Master Hypnotherapist, Trainer, Consultant and Coach.
Hyacinth, an independent consultant and trainer for fifteen years. Highly regarded and ensures that her training is informative, exciting and presented in such a way to ensure all learning styles are catered for. She has shown herself to be more than happy working with personnel at the highest levels in the private, public and voluntary sectors, up to and including members of the board as well as front line staff.
Hyacinth has worked as a consultant/trainer within a number of large public sector organisations, including: Home Office, Probation Service, DfES, DfT, CPS, OfCom, NICE. She has also worked with a number of local authorities including: Croydon, Greenwich, Havering, Hillingdon, Hounslow, Lambeth, Lewisham, Merton, Southwark, and Waltham Forest.
Please do contact me via motivationallearning@yahoo.co.uk
“It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts” – John Wooden
Disempowering thinking patterns
(Adapted from the book – The sourcebook of magic, a comprehensive guide to the technology of NLP by L Micheal Hall & Barbara P Belnap)
A way to understand how to empower yourself through coaching is a recognition that there are empowering thinking patterns that help to motivate you and there are disempowering thinking patterns that move you further away from achieving your goals.
Over-generalising
Jumping to conclusions with little or no evidence
All or nothing
Everything is either black or white, either/ or. There are no options in between
Blaming
Instead of accepting responsibility as appropriate, accusing, blaming and guilt tripping
Mind-reading
Projecting your own thoughts and feelings on to someone else instead of checking out with the person about their own internal thoughts, feelings and intentions etc.
Prophesying
Projecting negative outcomes into the future. Focusing on doom and gloom. Not seeing alternatives or positive ways to intervene to ensure a positive outcome
Personalising
Perceiving the actions of others as specifically targeted toward oneself
Should-ing
Putting pressure on oneself or others to conform to `divine’ rules about the world and life, then expressing such statements that involve `should’ and `must’
Filtering
Over-focusing on one particular facet of something, and thereby developing tunnel vision. Typically people filter out the positives and leave a negative perception
Can’t – ing
Imposing limits on oneself and others from a `mode of impossibility’ and expressing this using the can’t word
Empowering thinking patternsContextual thinking
Inquire about the context using such words as who, what, why, when, where, how?
Both and thinking
Reality test – does this situation have to be either/or? Are there other ways of viewing it?
Reality testing/appreciative thinking
Test the reality of the experience: to what extent, in which way etc
Information-gatherring thinking
Using one’s thoughts, feelings and intuitions to gather information to find the facts and then to check the conclusions – e.g. how do you know? (The difference between this and mind reading is that you will check your understanding with the other person)
Critical thinking
Think critically and analytically about what is happening. Think above the immediate content and look at the way something was said, the words that were used, the body language etc.
Reality test thinking about the `shoulds’
Challenge the word `should’ by finding out what rule or law demands such a `should’.
Possibility thinking
Test `can’t’ thinking by using `possibility’ thinking - What stops you? What would it feel like, look like, or sound like, if you could?”
Hyacinth is a Master Practitioner of NLP and a Master Hypnotherapist, Trainer, Consultant and Coach.
Hyacinth, an independent consultant and trainer for fifteen years. Highly regarded and ensures that her training is informative, exciting and presented in such a way to ensure all learning styles are catered for. She has shown herself to be more than happy working with personnel at the highest levels in the private, public and voluntary sectors, up to and including members of the board as well as front line staff.
Hyacinth has worked as a consultant/trainer within a number of large public sector organisations, including: Home Office, Probation Service, DfES, DfT, CPS, OfCom, NICE. She has also worked with a number of local authorities including: Croydon, Greenwich, Havering, Hillingdon, Hounslow, Lambeth, Lewisham, Merton, Southwark, and Waltham Forest.
Please do contact me via
motivationallearning@yahoo.co.uk“It’s what you learn after you know it all that counts” – John Wooden
Power language What language do you use to determine your reality?
“Act as though it is impossible to fail”
Ashanti proverb
Language helps to create our reality……….
“The thing always happens that you really believe in; and the belief in a thing makes it happen”. Frank Lloyd Wright.
What reality do you choose to create for yourself?
Is the glass half empty or half full?
Will you try or will you just do it?
Are you expansive or restricted?
Are you totally fed-up a little peeved?
Do you have a `can’t do’ attitude or a can do?
Do you see the impossibility or possibility?
Do you see the improbability or probability?
Do you believe there is no way or find a way?
Are you undeserving or deserving?
Do you have an `I don’t know what' or `I’ll find a way to do’ attitude
Do you see the obstacle or the goal?
Are you focused on the negative or positive?
Do you accept responsibility for your reality or give it to someone else?
Are you focused on why things will not work or how they can?
The truth is; language creates our reality. The extent to which you believe something is possible is the extent to which you will `pull out the stops’ to make it happen or not as the case may be. There in lays the power of belief. Choose your language wisely and make sure it is a language that serves you in the way you wish it to.
If you believe you can, that’s true. If you believe you can’t, that’s true too. Such is the great power of belief.
"You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn't exist anywhere except in the mind." Dale Carnegie
Create a vision of yourself a year from now. What are you doing? What have you achieved? How do you feel? What are you thinking? Where are you? What sorts of things are you saying to yourself to encourage yourself on to the next level. Who are you being in the world?
Once you’ve created this vision of yourself, in minute detail and in vivid colour. Bring this picture of yourself even closer; bring it inside yourself so you can actually feel it; experience this vision of yourself each and every day. Spend several moments each day in this picture of yourself. Continue taking the actions you need to take to make this picture of yourself even more of a reality. Embrace this picture each and every day as your true reality, step into this picture of yourself and see and experience the transformation.. Here in is the empowering might of self-suggestion.
……“An old Latin proverb says, “Believe that you have it and you have it”. Belief is the motivating force that helps you achieve your goal”. Claude M. Bristol, The Magic of Believing.
I am Hyacinth Fraser BSc, M.A. – Trainer, Consultant and Coach. Please do take the time to read my biography. I am happy to help with any further support, guidance and facilitation. Please contact me at
motivationallearning@yahoo.co.ukHyacinth has a proven track record and a particular interest and expertise in design and facilitation of Action learning sets, Career counselling and outplacement programmes, Customer care, Personal Effectiveness for women, Mentoring skills, Team building, communication skills and diversity awareness.
Click here for the brilliant Jim Rohn